by Ruth Smythers, beloved wife of The Reverend L.D. Smythers, Pastor
of the Arcadian Methodist Church of the Eastern Regional Conference.
INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE on the Conduct and
Procedure of the Intimate and Personal Relationships of the
Marriage State for the Greater Spiritual Sanctity of this Blessed
Sacrament and the Glory of God.
To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper
upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and most
terrifying day of her life. On the positive side, there is the wedding
itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a beautiful and
inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing a male to
provide for all her needs for the rest of her life. On the negative
side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride must pay the
piper, so to speak, by facing for the first time the terrible experience
of sex.
At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth. Some
young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity
and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! A selfish and sensual husband
can easily take advantage of such a bride.
One cardinal rule of marriage should never be
forgotten: GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY.
Otherwise what could have been a proper marriage could become an orgy
of sexual lust.
On the other hand, the bride's terror need not be extreme. While sex it
at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be endured, and
has been by women since the beginning of time, and is compensated for
by the monogamous home and by the children produced through it. It is
useless, in most cases, for the bride to prevail upon the groom to
forego the sexual initiation. While the ideal husband would be one who
would approach his bride only at her request and only for the purpose of
begetting offspring, such nobility and unselfishness cannot be expected
from the average man.
Most men, if not denied, would demand sex almost every day. The wise
bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly
during the first months of marriage. As time goes by she should make
every effort to reduce this frequency.
Feigned illness, sleepiness, and headaches are among the wife's best
friends in this matter. Arguments, nagging, scolding, and bickering also
prove very effective, if used in the late evening about an hour before
the husband would normally commence his seduction.
Clever wives are ever on the alert for new and better methods of denying
and discouraging the amorous overtures of the husband. A good wife
should expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a week by the end
of the first year of marriage and to once a month by the end of the
fifth year of marriage.
By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their
child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all
sexual contacts with the husband. By this time she can depend upon his
love for the children and social pressures to hold the husband in the
home. Just as she should be ever alert to keep the quantity of sex as
low as possible, the wise bride will pay equal attention to limiting the
kind and degree of sexual contacts. Most men are by nature rather
perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a variety
of the most revolting practices. These practices include among others
performing the normal act in abnormal positions; mouthing the female
body; and offering their own vile bodies to be mouthed in turn.
Nudity, talking about sex, reading stories about sex, viewing
photographs and drawings depicting or suggesting sex are the obnoxious
habits the male is likely to acquire if permitted.
A wise bride will make it the goal never to allow her husband to see her
unclothed body, and never allow him to display his unclothed body to
her. Sex, when it cannot be prevented, should be practiced only in
total darkness. Many women have found it useful to have thick cotton
nightgowns for themselves and pajamas for their husbands. These should
be donned in separate rooms. They need not be removed durning the sex
act. Thus, a minimum of flesh is exposed.
Once the bride has donned her gown and turned off all the lights, she
should lie quietly upon the bed and await her groom. When he comes
groping into the room she should make no sound to guide him in her
direction, lest he take this as a sign of encouragement. She should let
him grope in the dark. There is always the hope that he will stumble
and incur some slight injury which she can use as an excuse to deny him
sexual access.
When he finds her, the wife should lie as still as possible. Bodily
motion on her part could be interpreted as sexual excitement by the
optimistic husband.
If he attempts to kiss her on the lips she should turn her head slightly
so that the kiss falls harmlessly on her cheek instead. If he attempts
to kiss her hand, she should make a fist. If he lifts her gown and
attempts to kiss her anyplace else she should quickly pull the gown back
in place, spring from the bed, and announce that nature calls her to
the toilet. This will generally dampen his desire to kiss in the
forbidden territory.
If the husband attempts to seduce her with lascivious talk, the wise
wife will suddenly remember some trivial non-sexual question to ask him.
Once he answers she should keep the conversation going, no matter how
frivolous it may seem at the time.
Eventually, the husband will learn that if he insists on having sexual
contact, he must get on with it without amorous embellishment. The wise
wife will allow him to pull the gown up no farther than the waist, and
only permit him to open the front of his pajamas to thus make
connection.
She will be absolutely silent or babble about her housework while his
huffing and puffing away. Above all, she will lie perfectly still and
never under any circumstances grunt or groan while the act is in
progress. As soon as the husband has completed the act, the wise wife
will start nagging him about various minor tasks she wishes him to
perform on the morrow. Many men obtain a major portion of their sexual
satisfaction from the peaceful exhaustion immediately after the act is
over. Thus the wife must insure that there is no peace in this period
for him to enjoy. Otherwise, he might be encouraged to soon try for
more.
One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact
that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have
been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep
sense of guilt in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to
the marriage couch apologetically and filled with shame, already half
cowed and subdued. The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and
relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate
completely her husband's desire for sexual expression. (RML)
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