It's so
interesting how many women blame men when the sex is bad, but never
think that perhaps they sucked, or didn't , as the case may be.
Nevertheless, after hearing what other women had to say, I think I can definitely give men
worldwide a list of fantasies
that perhaps even your woman is wishing you'd do to her at this very moment.
1. Giving Her AN Orgasm Before Intercourse Starts:
This is far and away the biggest thing women wish men did more of in
bed. Most men don’t do this – instead, they clumsily plow straight to
intercourse as fast as possible.
This means that “foreplay” usually consists of a few minutes of obligatory kissing
,
followed by a few minutes of obligatory breast stimulation, followed by
a few minutes of obligatory cunnilingus until the ultimate goal of
intercourse is reached. This isn’t what women want!
If you can give her an orgasm before you penetrate her, then it’s
GUARANTEED to be good sex in her book, even if you don’t last as long as
you’d like. And on top of this, giving her an orgasm will make her more
responsive and MUCH more likely to have another orgasm during
intercourse. Sex becomes better for you, and for her.
2. Focus On Her Entirely:
It may sound like less of a fantasy and more of a sex tip, but a lot of
women want their men to focus on their entire bodies. "I want him to
lick and kiss
everything from my ankles to the small of my back. I want him to arouse
sensations that come from somewhere other than my vagina," said one
woman.
Maybe spending a little time on her inner thigh or
kissing her wrist is not such a bad idea. And by doing so, she will
likely do it to you as well, and who knows, maybe penetration will take a
backseat to sensation.
3. Longer, More Vocal Oral Sex:
Whether it's for you or her, women want a whole lot more of the mouth in
the south. To my surprise, many women were keen on performing for their
men as well (many in hopes of reciprocation). What they secretly wanted
was directions. Now I don't mean "no, no left, now a little to the
right, now go up, down, up, down, oh yeah," but rather describing how
and why you like it when she's down there. And noise; women secretly
want to hear you making all kinds of pleasant noises that assure them
that they're doing a good, uh, job.
Now, on to your deeds down
there. What do women secretly want? They want you to get deep down in
there with your mouth, use your fingers, and when necessary, penetrate
her with your penis for a little while, and then get busy again with your mouth
.
4. Give Her a Raunchy Sex:
Ah, fantasies, the beauty of them lies in the fact that many are not
realized. But as one woman put it: "I am tired of being that precious
lady in the bedroom. I'm tired of 'making love' and doing things gently
all the time. I want him to have raunchy sex
with me and talk to me as though he just met me and cares nothing about
what I want. I want him to ravish me like an animal and tell me to be
quiet whenever I try to say something." Wow!
I guess, in the
end, there are plenty of women who want to be, for lack of a better
word, slutty in the bedroom. They simply fear that if they behave in
such a manner, then their men will think less of them, and some are even
afraid that their men will mistakenly begin treating them differently
outside the bedroom as well. All the same, many women are big fans of
scenarios such as the one described.
5. Curse Like A Sailor:
In the spirit of being vocal, believe it or not, dirty talk
was mentioned quite often. But it wasn't the flowery variety; the talk
that many women wanted was downright nasty. I guess
tame bedroom antics
went out with everlasting marriages. The colorful language they
were using had these women blushing, but their candidness was much
appreciated. Of course, I can't write any of it here without being
censored, but I'm certain you can use your imagination on this one.
6. Get Aggressive In Bed:
Just about every woman I encountered had the words "more aggressive sex
"
rolling off her tongue. From being tied up and spanked to having their
hair pulled and being mildly asphyxiated, the women were quite
enthusiastic about aggressive sex.
Of course, I'm not implying
that you should go home and smack your bitch up, but instead, maybe a
little roughing in the bedroom can work wonders for your sex life. And
if that's not enough, these women didn't simply want their men to be
more aggressive; they wanted to, on occasion, be the aggressor.