Comedienne Damilola Adekoya, popularly known as Princess opened up in a recent interview with Punch about her marriage which lasted less than a month after their wedding.
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"Why did you suddenly decide to go and study French?
I have always been interested in learning languages, even our own Nigerian languages. For my profession, there is no limit to knowledge. You don’t know where the job might take you.
You have been in the industry for some time now, how has it been?
It has been okay. We have been managing by the grace of God. But last year, I was a bit down. I was in the hospital for some time and I needed to get myself together again physically and otherwise before I start running up and down again.
What was wrong with you?
We thank the Lord for His mercies.
You didn’t say what was wrong with you that you had to be hospitalised?
But you already know. We thank the Lord. The most important thing is that I am alive and better. I appreciate life more. But this one you are asking, e no reach make I sick? After my husband left after our wedding, was it not enough reason for me to be sick? Ah! The Lord is our strength.
Why are you making fun of this?
Ah! I am telling you the truth o. The truth is that we all have challenges in our lives. I have always believed that the challenge is not the issue but how you get up and get over it. I was very down last year. It was my low moment. But with the help of God and the support of my family and friends, I am here now. I am happy.
Are you no longer depressed?
I was never depressed. I reacted like every normal human being would react if she embarks on a lifetime journey and it doesn’t go as she planned it. But God has a reason for everything.
You make people laugh, are there times you wish somebody would also make you laugh?
I wish that all the time. If you give me N5m cheque, I will laugh from now till tomorrow morning. If you give me a property at Ikoyi, I will laugh for a month nonstop; you will beg me to stop laughing.
One young comedian said recently that the older comedians steal their jokes and claim them as theirs, do you agree with him?
Ha! Doesn’t it sound somehow? It is just like me saying that Alibaba stole my jokes. He has been here for a while and he has his repertoires. For him to be relevant still means that he is doing something nice. I just started 12 years ago and somebody that started last year would say I am using his jokes. What was I using before? I cannot dispute the fact that sometimes, comedians can just tell a colleague’s joke. But in Nigeria, I don’t think we have copyright on our jokes. However, it is good to be dynamic and reinvent yourself. I am original. I don’t need to copy anybody. This is the job God has sent me to do and He will provide jokes for me till the end of time.
So you have really spent 12 years in the industry?
Oh yes. God has been faithful and I have the will to be better and carve a niche. It makes you want to be a trail blazer and want to move on. I have had massive support from great people. They appreciate me and I want to do better. I am intelligent. It is not easy to be an Engineering graduate and also a Theatre Arts graduate.
How?
I studied Electrical Electronics Engineering at the Federal Polytechnic, Ilaro and I read Theatre Arts at the University of Lagos. I am a student of Alliance d Francais. I am too much. I am a member of the Rotary Club. So don’t try me.
What happened to your acting career?
I still act but I have not done any movie in a while. I have spoken to some of my friends in recent times and I think I will come back on board. Acting is my first love. It is just that comedy takes a lot of time. You have to travel a lot to make people happy. I am also a caterer.
As a Theatre Art student, was it your desire to go into comedy?
No. I never knew I would be a stand-up comedian. I thank God any way. We went for a show at MUSON Centre (Lagos). We had a stage play performance. I used to make my friends laugh during rehearsals. So that day, we were waiting for the comedians that were supposed to perform at that event. So somebody suggested that I should go on the stage and perform. That was how it started. But the likes of Wale Adenuga encouraged me to go into it full time.
Are there times you wish you weren’t a celebrity especially when you are linked with controversies?
The only time I felt bad about my fame was when my marriage ended. I felt if I weren’t this popular; people wouldn’t have talked about it. So many marriages crash on a daily basis but you will not hear about them. Some people have been married five times but you will not hear their gist because they are not in the eye of the public. People didn’t know that the marriage had broken up until December when I felt I was strong enough to handle the publicity that it generated.
Were you shocked with the kind of publicity it generated?
I was shocked! People called me from all parts of the world including China. Some people cried while some people felt happy. Some guys said they were happy my marriage ended. Some said they were not happy that I even married the guy. Some said I looked older than him. Some said my marriage shouldn’t have ended just like that. People talked and talked. But the only time you know your marriage is successful is when you live with your partner and God calls one of you home. Marriage of 30 years can still break up. It is a bad thing for a marriage to breakup. So you can imagine the unhappiness the parties involved would be going through. Nobody is happy when his/her marriage ends. Some people see me outside and ask, ‘your marriage has ended, how do you feel?’ I will answer them that I am jumping up or how else do they expect me to feel? Nonsense! A comedian once said that ‘complete’ and ‘finish’ appear to have the same meaning but they are not the same. If you marry the right person, you are complete but if you marry the wrong person, you are finished.
Were you in love with him in the first place?
I got married to somebody who I was in love with. At that time, he also said he loved me. Unfortunately, the marriage ended too soon.
Why?
It was due to irreconcilable differences. It is not a thing of joy. I don’t think we should celebrate sadness and bad news. We should be more sensitive. No marriage should end but peradventure it does, don’t make a mockery of that person. You are not even mocking the person, you are mocking God.
Are you giving it another shot?
No! Me ke? Let us struggle first and make some money. In any case, I think I should marry a Chinese or an Indian. If many people agree that I should marry a Chinese, then I will go ahead. But a Japanese might be better. Japanese products are strong and reliable.
Is your ex-husband still your friend?
I don’t think you should call him my ‘ex-husband’ because we were together for less than one month. An ex- husband is somebody you marry and after three years or more, you separate. Anyway, I don’t know where he is. We have moved on.
Are you happy?
I am happier now and I am better. I was happy before, the only thing that got me sad was that the marriage ended. I did one wedding and it didn’t go well and I am alive. I should thank God. A lot of people lose their spouses just after a week of marriage. As long as you are alive, have hope. If God says I should marry again, I will follow His will. I have made my own attempt, let God make His own. I am sure he (ex-husband) is okay anywhere he is anyway.
Wasn’t the break-up your fault?
No. it wasn’t my fault. I can’t really say it was his fault too. It was just irreconcilable differences. We met and we were in love and we quickly got married. Maybe we got married too quickly but I have seen people who got married a month after they met and the marriage lasted. Our own didn’t work out. There is no need to apportion blame.
Do you still believe in love?
I have always believed in fairy tales and a knight in shining armour but my marriage didn’t go that way unfortunately.
There is usually a stigma associated with women who are divorced, doesn’t that bother you?
Stigma ke? That was before. Men can afford to have 20 children from different women. If your wife is abusing you and you cannot take it, my brother, please take a walk. If your husband is abusing you, take a walk. If it is like my own case that both of you cannot agree, you also need to take a walk before somebody wounds the other person. Death is final. So it is better to take off before it degenerates into death. I know somebody that separated from his wife and years later, he came back and begged her and they are back together. He, who fights and runs away lives to fight another day. Don’t die there.
So what if your husband comes back?
No o. But like I said; he, who fights and runs away, lives to fight another day.
Have you always been this big?
No! I was very slim before but I didn’t like it. I would rather be this big.
Sources: Punch,
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