You don't PREPARE for MARRIAGE in MARRIAGE

 
For many husbands, they feel wives can be downright confusing.
One night, a husband looks at his wife with puppy dog eyes and suggests romance. she replies in frustration, “Not tonight. Is sex all you men think about?” A few nights later in that very same bed, she might say, “You just watch TV and go to bed. Don’t u find me attractive anymore?”

Another husband hears his wife complaining about her need to exercise. He buys her a gym membership. And that’s when the fight begins!

There are countless times in marriage when a husband and wife get their wires crossed.

Efforts to make your wife happy may seem to backfire more often than not.

MANY a TIME your LADY actually TELLS U what she WANTS, either with INDIRECT WORDS or SIGN LANGUAGE (every lady has her peculiar sign language, u got to pay attention and Learn hers).

BELIEVE me she wants the Romance, affection and Love but she wants it wholeheartedly and wants u to do it right.

MAKE TIME a DAILY HABIT! Don't become too busy that u cant spend at least 15 minutes a day talking with your Spouse.

If possible, use dinnertime as a place for conversation. If dinner doesn’t work, maybe it’s a five minute phone call at lunch and 10 minutes sitting on the sofa in the evening.

Act interested in what your wife has to say. Notice I wrote “act.” I know the things
we women SOMETIMES talk about can be boring, long-winded, dramatic or illogical (or all of the above).....WOMEN love to TALK and CHAT! But if u simply act as if u care about what we’re saying, it means the world to us.

If its too much Just picture yourself in a board room listening to a boring presentation by your boss. You would still act interested out of respect for your boss. Act interested in your wife’s comments, not always because the conversation is riveting, but because u love your wife.

Hug, cuddle, and kiss her often. Remember the affectionate way u would hold her hand, and tell her how much u Love her while u were engaged! Do that again and again.

Remind yourself to romance and court her physically with a steady flow of affection. But remember, the goal of all your hugging and cuddling isn’t to have sex that night but to MAINTAIN AFFECTIONS.

WRITE HER A LOVE NOTE. It doesn’t have to be pure poetry to make her heart flatter.
Write down the things u appreciate about her. Why are u glad u married her? Did
she do something last week that u really liked? How is she doing a good job as a
mother?

Take her On the date, hold her hand, open the door for her, and brag about her.

Tell her she looks beautiful. What’s a common question that little girls ask? Do I look
beautiful daddy? It’s a question that grown women still wonder about. Women tend to
be hard on themselves regarding their looks.

They are afraid they don’t measure up in your sight. But if u look into your wife’s eyes and tell her she is beautiful, u will make her day!

Help with the household duties. pick up around the house, help in the kitchen, and your wife will be incredibly thankful. REMEMBER U are to SERVE HER as SHE'S to SERVE U.

LASTLY make your WIFE, a whole part of your LIFE, your business, Job, everything u do, make her know how u get things done at work, make her a part of your Life. She would be so glad and it makes her feel IMPORTANT.

Sometimes u both can write emails together, discuss Job contracts, ask for her opinions. THAT'S WHY U JUST GOT TO MARRY RIGHT GENT! So if she doesn't know how to give u Business ideas, she knows how to add wisdom and directions from the SPIRIT by through God's WORD.....

*Winks* keep Loving!

Keep Quiet: Charles Novia Advises Tchidi Chikere

Just recently when Nollywood director, Tchidi Chikere, got married to his new wife and actress, Nuella Njubigbo, he has been unveiling revelations on social media as regards the reasons why he left his ex- wife, Sophia Chikere.

There have been reactions in various quarters concerning their dispute, as his ex-wife (Sophia) also, has taken to social media to defend allegations made concerning her and her ex-marriage.

Apparently, this development isn’t going down well with some other celebrities, as top notch Nollywood producer and director, Charles Novia, took on the issue as published on his blog. Read below

“One of the best brains we have in Nollywood would be Tchidi Chikere, a celebrated scriptwriter and movie director. With an impressive body of work in the past decade and a capacity to discover new stars or to enhance sagging careers of others, Tchidi is not a personality one can ignore in Nollywood.

I have known him in a professional capacity for close to fourteen years and I relate well with him in the few instances we have met and had discussions. Tchidi has a burning desire to make a change in Nollywood, to shoot movies which somehow should re-calibrate society’s moral journey. I particularly love some of his movies for the uncanny way he brings out everyday characters in simple lifestyles and turn them to complex evolutionary beings in complex situations. As a movie director and a scriptwriter, Tchidi is gifted. Very gifted. Take it from me.

“In my usual no-holds-barred critique of his acting, I would be less charitable in my accolades. But I am not writing this to detract from his credentials as a celebrated auteur. I am writing this out of concern, perhaps more professional but with a huge personal slant to it as well.

It is a well-known fact by now that Tchidi got married to an actress, Nuella, a few days ago. First of all, Tchidi, I must congratulate you on that. Whatever the opinions people have, we must all respect the wishes of consenting adults when it comes to tying the knot. He made a choice and we should respect that, no matter how much the slanderous anonymous commentators on social media think they know.

That Tchidi got seperated from his former wife, Sophia who bore him three children is perhaps unfortunate but like I said, consenting adults take decisions which they believe is best for them at certain stages in life. Such decisions might come much anger and recriminations and would always leave scars in the hearts of both parties. Divorce or seperation is never pleasant.

My concern in this case has to do with the open fights between Tchidi and Sophia on social media AFTER Tchidi’s new marriage. On face value, it would seem to have started with Tchidi’s rant on twitter a couple of days back against his ex-wife.

The tweets were quite shocking and less than charitable, to say the least. Though from the tweets, one could psycho-analyse that Tchidi was really angry, hurt and perhaps deliberately hitting below the belt at his former wife. My first reaction when I read those tweets on a blog was one of shock. Those tweets were totally uncalled for. Totally. Granted, they might have been written in a miasma of negative volcanic emotions but total restraints is required from a man in those kinds of circumstances. And such restraints is justified when the mother of your blood children is involved! Sophia had a riposte which I read as well and she had a moral right to respond too. But something tells me that Tchidi would wish to fire another salvo at that response and thus start social media bric-a-brac which would inflict more wounds on all parties. That is why I had to write this open opinion.

In Nollywood and perhaps to a small extent the entertainment industry in general, most of the creatives tend to look away when acrimonious matters befall one of their own. First reactions would be one of aloofness, followed by private gossip in meeting places. Sometimes, colleagues and friends of such personalities would whisper malicious things about the subject in private while pretending to be all coy and concerned when they meet the suffering subjects in public. Oh Yes! My sector have some psychophants and pretenders as with politics but isn’t that how life goes?

Perhaps Tchidi and Sophia are being wrongly advised by masquerading friends? Or maybe they are not even being advised at all by anyone but are just ventilating on social media, giving bloggers more hits and the country one more piece of idle gossip?

Whatever the case, I will openly advise Tchidi to stop further tweets or replies on this matter. For the record, I don’t know Sophia or Nuella and haven’t met with any ever and don’t wish to. My concern, as a father, is for the kids from Tchidi’s first marriage and perhaps future kids from this new marriage. Do not celebrate your misgivings on social media. Sheath the swords. Think of the children. The children. The children.

Those poor kids are going through indescribable torture and pain already. You don’t need to add fuel to their discomfort. Angry words once written and published are hard to take back, even with the passing of time.

Celebrities are human too. That you see us on the screens or read about us does not make us less human than the other fellow. Fame and fortune only hide our foibles and finnicks. But we are human. However, whilst we are human, there are expectations of decorum we all must adhere to. And if it is just for the kids, Tchidi and Sophia (and perhaps Nuella) must adhere to the dictates of decorum.

Another 'Ritualist Den' Found In Ogun State [See Photo]

Weeks after a ritualist den was discovered in Soka, Ibadan, another one has been discovered under a bridge close to the gate of a popular Cement Company along the Abeokuta Lagos Expressway.

A man from Ado-Ekiti Ekiti State who had lived as a mad man in the Iyana Egbado village in Ewekoro LGA of the state was seen carrying a nylon bag yesterday in a suspicious manner. Residents of the area decided to find out what was in his nylon and upon tearing it, it was discovered it contained decayed human intestine stained with blood. He was about to be lynched but was quickly saved and whisked away by men of the Ogun State Police command.

The suspect later took the police to his hideout where sliced pieces of human parts, plastic containers filled with human blood, ladies pants, brassiers, ladies and men shoes, blood stained dresses and duvet, knives, various non-functioning electronics parts & assorted soft drinks were found. Continue

He confessed that he operated with four other people including a woman who has been with the syndicate
for 9 months and has been operating from the Ewekoro axis of town.

The State Police Force PRO, Muyiwa Adejobi, confirmed the incident and said the state Commissioner of Police, Ikemefuna Okoye, has instructed the suspect be brought to the state Police Headquarters where a full-scaled investigation would be launched.

National Conference Delegates Suggest Death Penalty For Corrupt Officials

Some delegates of the ongoing National Conference have advocated death penalty for the public officials found guilty of corruption.

In his speech Gen. (rtd.) Geoffery Ejiga lamented that Nigeria was deteriorating, urged his colleagues to rise up and change the situation. Gen. Ejiga reminded that he shared his views during the 2005 National Political Reform Conference, where he suggested capital punishment for corrupt officials. The words of the military men were really unpopular at that time.

In his speech the ex- general mentioned China as the example:

“If they can hang corrupt people in China, then we must hang them here too. I can testify that things are fast deteriorating in this country.  “We must discuss those issues so that we can pull back our country from the brink of collapse,” he said.

The old general got support from a youth leader, Ben Duntoye. He mentioned that only in Nigeria, while corrupt officials continue to steal with impunity, the society was conferring chieftaincy titles on them.

“A man steals N20bn and he keeps walking the streets freely. Think of what that money would do for our youth if we were to empower some of them.
“Capital punishment is key to fighting corruption in Nigeria. If a man steals N20bn, what else do you need to do? Such people should be hanged! Government must also cut down on wastes and its excesses,” he said.

Former governor of Ebonyi State, Dr Sam Egwu, also blamed the elite for being responsible for the problems confronting the nation. He wondered why political appointees should earn more than people in the academia, saying the elites always make laws to serve their selfish cravings.

“The problem of Nigeria is mostly caused by the elites who make laws to suit their whims. This is a conspiracy of the elites. We are not yet sincere with ourselves,” he said.

It would be recalled that the National Conference was inaugurated by President Goodluck Jonathan in Abuja on March 17, 2014, Monday, and will last about 3 months.
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Nollywood Actor, Jim Iyke Loses Mom

This is not the best of times for Nollywood actor, Jim Iyke as he has lost his mom to death.
                                           Jim Iyke and mom  

Jim Iyke's mom, Mrs Esomugha who has been sick for a while, even visited India for treatment died on Tuesday night 1^st of April, 2014.
He, has however not made any comment.
Jim Iyke who is so close to his mother, publicly declared his love for her on his twitter page last year saying:
God’s force of nature. Mom; Jehovah’s greatest miracle in my life!
Her sacrifices is incomparable, her patience limitless, her place in ur hrt irreplaceable. She’s d barometer I measure all women. I love u mom.”
May her soul RIP!

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Keeping Your Vagina Clean and Healthy

We all know tips and tricks for getting healthy hair and skin, but what about having a healthy vagina? Most women are taught early on to cleanse daily with strong soap or use "feminine hygiene" sprays, but this can actually do more harm than good. Knowing the right way to stay clean, choosing foods that will boost your health, and even exercising your vagina are all ways you can keep your vagina in tip top shape. Read on to learn more about how to have a healthy vagina.


The vagina is a tube of muscle inside a woman’s body that runs from the cervix (the opening of the womb) to the vaginal opening. The external sex organs, which are called the vulva, surround the vaginal opening.
Looking after your everyday health can help keep your vagina in good shape, says Dr Suzy Elneil, consultant in urogynaecology at University College Hospital, London, and spokesperson for Wellbeing of Women. “Generally, good vaginal health is maintained by making sure you’re in good general health,” she explains. “This includes healthy diet and exercise. Normal exercise helps maintain good vaginal function, as walking and running helps the pelvic floor to tone up and helps ensure good general health.”

Vaginal secretions or discharge
Other than your period as part of your natural menstrual cycle, it’s normal to produce clear or white secretions (discharge) from your vagina. This mucus is produced naturally from the neck of the womb, known as the cervix. “Vaginal discharge is not ‘always a bad sign’,” says Dr Elneil. “There is a myth that copious clear or white discharge is associated with sexually transmitted infections. Changes in the amount of discharge can be 100% hormonal – in other words, linked to the menstrual cycle, pregnancy or menopause.”
The character and amount of vaginal discharge varies throughout your menstrual cycle. Around the time that your ovary releases an egg (ovulation), your discharge usually becomes thicker and stretchy, like raw egg white.

The vagina contains more bacteria than any other part of a woman's body, after the bowel

Healthy discharge doesn’t have a strong smell or colour. You may feel an uncomfortable wetness, but you shouldn’t have any itching or soreness around your vagina. If there are any changes to your discharge that aren’t normal for you, such as a change in colour or if it starts to smell or itch, see your GP as you might have an infection.

Bacteria in the vagina

There are lots of bacteria inside the vagina, and they’re there to protect it. Professor Ronnie Lamont, spokesperson for the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, says: “The vagina contains more bacteria than anywhere else in the body after the bowel, but the bacteria are there for a reason.”
The good bacteria inside the vagina:

• provide "numerical dominance": they outnumber other potential harmful bacteria that might enter the vagina
• help to keep the vagina’s pH balance (how acidic the vagina is) at an even level, which helps to keep the balance of bacteria healthy
• can produce bacteriocins (naturally occurring antibiotics) to reduce or kill other bacteria entering the vagina
• produce a substance that stops invading bacteria sticking to the vagina walls, which prevents bacteria from invading the tissues

If the balance of bacteria is disturbed, this can lead to infection and inflammation. Bacteria called lactobacilli help to keep the vagina’s pH balance at its normal low level (less than pH 4.5), which also prevents the growth of other organisms. If the pH of the vagina increases (in other words, if it gets less acidic), the quality or amount of lactobacilli can fall and other bacteria can multiply. This can result in infections such as bacterial vaginosis or thrush, which can cause symptoms including itching, irritation and abnormal discharge.

Washing your vagina

It’s a good idea to avoid perfumed soaps, gels and antiseptics as these can affect the healthy balance of bacteria and pH levels in the vagina, and cause irritation.
Use plain, unperfumed soaps to wash the area around the vagina (the vulva) gently every day. The vagina will clean itself inside your body with natural vaginal secretions (discharge). “During your period, washing more than once a day may be helpful,” says Dr Elneil, who points out that keeping the perineal area (between the vagina and anus) clean is important too. “Good perineal hygiene is necessary, by washing that area at least once a day using your normal bathing routines.”
“All women are different,” says Professor Lamont. “Some may wash with perfumed soap and not notice any problems. But if a woman has vulval irritation or symptoms, then one of the first things you can do is to use non-allergenic, plain soaps to see if that helps.”

Vaginal douches

A douche flushes water up into the vagina, clearing out vaginal secretions. Some women use a douche to "clean" the vagina, but using a douche can disrupt the normal vaginal bacteria so it isn't recommended that you use one.
“I can’t think of any circumstances where douches are helpful, because all they do is wash out everything that’s in the vagina, including all the healthy bacteria,” explains Professor Lamont.
There is no evidence that douching protects against STIs or vaginal infections, and it may even increase the risk.

Scented wipes and vaginal deodorants

These perfumed products can disrupt the vagina’s healthy, natural balance. “If nature had intended the vagina to smell like roses or lavender, it would have made the vagina smell like roses or lavender,” says Professor Lamont.
Washing with water and a plain soap should be all you need to keep your vagina healthy. It’s normal for the vagina to have a scent. “Vaginal odour can change at different times of the reproductive cycle and shouldn’t always be thought of as being a sign of infection or illness,” says Dr Elneil.
If you’re worried about the way your vagina smells, if the smell is unpleasant, or you’re using perfumed products to cover up your vagina’s smell, you should see your GP. You might have an infection that needs treatment.
The most common cause of unusual vaginal discharge is bacterial vaginosis, which can cause an unpleasant smell. It’s easily treated with antibiotics,

Safer sex

Some bacteria and viruses can get into the vagina during sex. These include the bugs that cause chlamydia, gonorrhoea, genital herpes, genital warts, syphilis and HIV. You can protect your vagina against these infections by using a condom every time you have sex.

You forgot the interview you granted to Punch newspaper in 2011..." Sophia replies Tchidi Chikere

 
So after Tchidi Chikere kinda washed her dirty linen in public yester-evening (HERE), Sophia has responded via a press statement below:

Tchidi Chikere, I read all you said about me and I laugh. Is that the best way to justify yourself? It is well. I will not exchange words with you still because there is nothing you say or write about me that will shake me because those that put their trust in God, He never fails them.

Why are you lying to people? For them to turn around and clap for you and justify what you did? Is it because people who know the truth are saying it and it's hurting you and you are now looking for a way to justify yourself. I give 10 years of my life and this is how you repay me? By disrespecting me and my family?

You said I used juju to marry you. If truly I and my family used juju to hold you, let God who sees everything judge me and you.

You bring money for the upkeep of your kids and you are writing about it? Like seriously, are they not your kids? Whose responsibility is that? And who is disputing that with you? You said since you married me that I have not given you no love, no affection etc but you forgot the interview you granted to Punch newspaper in 2011 saying that I am the best thing that have happened to you.

You said I never had time for you? When you are always filming in the east and I won't see you in months. I played the role of father and mother to the kids...and I laughed the more when I saw where you wrote that I didn't feed you for 5 days.. Is this all in desperation to justify yourself? Wow!!

You said marriages are not contracted on the pages of newspaper and granting interviews yet you people have been granting interviews upon interviews since 2012.. Have I said anything against you? But I won't say anything against you. Keep saying lies about me thinking you can tarnish my image by putting up this childish and immature behavior.

Even if you say that I am a prostitute tomorrow or a thief, people who know the truth know the truth and God knows everything and sees the heart and he will pay everybody back according to our deeds. So am not shaking!!

I will never say anything against you to gain favour from people! No you can't hide pregnancy. I gave you my life for 12 years, gave you 3 lovely boys, gave you a home. And you always say to me then, I was a good wife to you and you know it. I was loyal to you and never cheated on you. I swallowed and stomached so many things just to make my marriage work. I turned deaf ears to so many things and covered my eyes to so many things.

I remember all the stories I heard about your escapades with other women, but did I leave you? I stayed with you because marriage is for better or worse and when you started your affair with Nuella in 2010, what did you say to me when I confronted you?

I stayed, endured and prayed every night. Have you forgotten the day I almost committed suicide? The first time you left me and the kids? I wanted to end my life but God saved me. Even as you left us in 2012, I keep saying to people that my marriage is intact and I never changed my name from Sophia Tchidi Chikere till date.

Have you not done enough to me? You are married now and still I wish you and your new wife well. Why can't you leave me alone to face my children and fill up the vacuum this has created in their lives? You say such evil things against their mother and they are hearing it from their schoolmates. Their schoolmates are taking about it and asking them questions everyday and yet your not satisfied. You claim you kept quiet because of them, yet you have been talking and tarnishing my image since 2012? Yet I kept mute. I have not and will never say anything bad against you. Vengeance is of the Lord, unless he is not on the throne.

You put up my pictures with my friend to use against me? You want to use it to justify what you did to me? What you put me through for years? You said he is my boyfriend that I go to see in London and I ask you Tchidi, when I was with you, did I not go to London 2 or 3 times yearly to buy clothes for my boutique? Everybody knows that I am a business woman and I buy my products from London and America. And so because I have a friend in London, I now go there just to see him? Lol He is my friend, my pal, my buddy and my best friend.

We started being good friends in 2013 after Chidi left me and ended our marriage. He is someone that is very close to me and my confidant. All these years I have had women as best friends and they all betrayed me, and I decided to have a guy as my best friend. We go everywhere together and he assists me in shopping and buying things for my shop etc I can't deny him. He is my friend. People that know me very well will tell you that I love taking pictures and so we took lots of pictures and the guy posted it on his Facebook page and some people copied it and started posting it online. I have also kept mute about it and I would have still keep mute if not that Tchidi raises it and wanted to use it to tarnish my name.

But is well. My kids read what their daddy wrote about me and they asked me to respond and tell the whole world that you are wonderful mother and that they know and they are seeing everything and won't say anything till they grow up! So am responding to this because of my three lovely boys that I live for, that am blessed with.

I want to beg Tchidi to please allow me to concentrate and train my kids with God's grace and help. I wish him the best in his new marriage.I bless his new marriage with his new wife and I wish them well. This will be my last statement. Even if Chidi pulls the mountain to paint me black.. I will not respond again.

Thank you

Tchidi Chikere ridicules ex-wife, exposes her lovers

The fight gets dirtier.... as Nollywood producer/director TChidi has blown the lid on why his marriage with estranged wife Sophia crumpled by exposing photos of Sophia with her lovers. When Sophia initially accused Nuella of breaking her home, Tchidi kept mum...well, he's finally decided to speak and spill the beans! According to Tchidi, he has tried in a matured way to be silent about the whole issue but I guess comments from haters got to him. Tchidi  said, he begged her for years,  cried for affection,  begged for a bond but Sophia never cared. That is why he wants to experience love and what it really means to have a home, what life feels like to be truly married.  TChidi is still tweeting but here are snapshots of his first tweets below:

Finally EXPOSED! See What Many Ladies Wear To Deceive Men (See Photo)

 

Ever noticed someone (a lady) whose posterior used to be flat, eventually becomes bigger like Kim K's over night? Well, if you have, don't trip, she just got this from the market! 

Na foam in there o! 

 

Lol.....

Oh Dear! Nollywood Actor Chris Nkulor's New Look will Shock You! (Photos)

Here are recent pictures of Enugu based Nollywood actor, Chris Nkulor, who right now is down with kidney infection and needs to undergo a surgery as quickly as possible.

Chris has been critically ill for a long time now, before he was even diagnosed of kidney infection. And according to his colleagues, they are proposing that the surgery be done at the Obafemi Awolowo University Teaching hospital Ile-Ife Nigeria. A total sum of about three million naira is needed for the surgery and post surgery care.

If you would love to help, please donate anything you have to the account number: Chris Nkulor, 0065713996, Access Bank. Chris Nkulor also needs our prayers