Here comes that generalisation again, and with it the knowledge
that at least one reader will say, "But I'm not like that". Okay, let's
say that many - not all - women enjoy these lovemaking positions.
Call
us indulgent, but most men enjoy seeing their partners having an
orgasm. Here are a few of the positions many women find gives them the
most pleasure, along with some tips for men on maximising the enjoyment
for both of you.
Astride
You lie on your back, perhaps with a
pillow under your bottom. Once she's on top of you and you're inside
her, you can tilt your pelvis forward a bit, which allows her to grind
hers more directly against it. Many women find this a reliable way of
having a clitoral orgasm, especially if they lie on top of you. She may
prefer you to lie still and let her control the rhythm of her movement.
Don't worry - it'll be pleasant for you too.
Your partner may
also prefer to remain erect, resting her weight on her hands while
moving rhythmically up and done. This enables her to move her G-spot
against the head or shaft of your penis.
This position can be
hugely enjoyable position for both of you. Your partner may heighten the
sensation for both of you by squeezing her kegel muscles. Exotic sex
manuals talk about women turning around while astride the man, but feats
like these have more value as a novelty than heightened pleasure. Try
it, but don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out. There are plenty
of other options.
The intimate missionary
It's a much-maligned
position, but many women love it. It allows full-length, skin-to-skin
touching and eye contact. Try putting your arms around your partner and
holding her close to you. You can also hold yourself up on your arms and
move inside her, very slowly and rhythmically, rather than frantic
rodeo-type thrusting. Try putting a pillow under her bottom.
Making a stand
For
this you'll need a very sturdy surface, at about waist height. If it's a
cold, hard or rough surface, your partner will appreciate a towel
between it and her bottom. Some men go on about the value of a rumbling,
vibrating tumble-drier to add extra sensation. If you're comfortable
with your partner calling out the name of the manufacturer while in the
throes of passion, switch on the machine.
The reason so many
women like this position is that it allows contact with the G-spot. Some
women find it the only position in which they can ejaculate, often a
highly erotic experience for both partners. She should probably be fully
aroused before you enter her, as you'll be penetrating her deeply.
Depending
on where you do this - a fallen tree in the middle of the Okavango,
against a lifeboat on a cruise liner, under a full moon in Venice -
there'll also be an element of danger or intrigue. So this isn't the
time for lingering, all-night intimacy, but rather the cut-to-the-action
sort. Gauge your partner's mood right and your have a recipe for brief,
explosive sex. It’s no replacement for the lingering, romantic sort,
just a whizz-bang alternative.
Spoons in the sack
This is a
slow, intimate position that can feel enormously erotic. Your partner
lies on her side and you nestle in her back, letting you guide your
penis inside her. There's no eye contact unless you have a strategically
placed mirror (Not a bad idea if your partner fancies it), but it does
allow you to rub and stroke her body and to kiss, lick and nuzzle her
neck, back and ears. And of course, you can give her a running
commentary on how good she makes you feel.
Stoop lively now
Not
all women are wild about “doggy style” as it can seem a bit impersonal,
but if the mood is right and she's confident that you're not
fantasising about her sister it can be very exciting. You can do this
standing, kneeling or lying down. For the latter you can put a pillow
under her pelvis, and enter her vagina from behind, resting your weight
on your hands.
Standing or kneeling affords the deepest
penetration, and you can hold your partner's hips in your hands and
control your thrusting with her pelvic movements and yours.
