Here’s What To Do When Everybody You Know Is Getting Married, Except You

You always know when the next one is upon you. You log into Facebook and your newsfeed displays a picture of somebody’s hand on her boyfriend’s chest. Otherwise known to single people as the Hand of Death. You don’t have to read the caption. You don’t need to see the “Congratulations!” posts. You know what this hand means.

So these people you know or sorta-know are engaged, and your typical post-engagement behaviors start to kick in. Zooming in on the picture, checking out the ring, texting your friends, resisting the temptation to leave a comment that says, “So you agree, you think you’re really pretty?”, making a list of the reasons why you’ll be forever alone, etc etc.

But when you think about it, you can’t really remember when you decided that marriage was something you wanted. There was no day where you just magically knew that an engagement should be the next step on your path to adulthood.

Rather, a switch flipped at one point and suddenly everybody was pairing off, getting engaged, planning weddings, and then actually having them. What was once an insane and unbelievable thing – “What? They’re engaged?! How? We’re all so young!” – has suddenly become the standard thing amongst people your age, because you’re not twenty-two anymore and this is just what happens.

You don’t feel like that much time has passed since the start of all this, since the first peers, that you knew personally, got engaged. But now everybody’s doing it. In your childhood, it was all about Tomagotchi’s. In your teens, your life was about braces and uncomfortable group dates to see Pirates of the Caribbean. 

But now, in your twenties, the focus has shifted to finding a partner with whom you can make a serious, lifelong commitment. It sounds romantic, but if you’re alone, sometimes you’d rather still be an awkward teenager, sitting in that movie theater while the kid with the spiked hair tries to touch your non-existent boobs.

It’s an overwhelming thing to experience – everybody rushing to pair off and start a life together – and it often makes you feel like that’s what you need to do next. You don’t even have time to think about whether or not it’s what you want right now, because the feelings of urgency and panic have erased any sense of logical thinking in your mind.

Often, the only thought you’re left with is This happening for everybody else, except me. I’m screwed.

It’s hard not to be consumed by it – by the never-ending what-if’s and the worry that you’re going to end up alone. You forget to live and instead start revolving your life around the happenings of other people. You feel hopeless, lost, listless. You feel like you no longer have a chance at happiness in this game.

But here’s the thing: this is not a game.

Nobody is going to win. Nobody is better than you for getting married. And you’re not better than anybody else for not getting married. Marriage doesn’t make you needy and dependent, and being single doesn’t make you independent. Measuring your life up against anybody else is a waste of time because you will never be them and they will never be you.

It will be tempting to try to find something that makes you feel superior to others. You’ll want to label people. They got married too young or That couple will be divorced in less than ten years or Well they’re married, but I’m out living it up or At least I’m having fun. 

You’re allowed to feel weird about the fact that it feels like everyone else is getting married except for you. But you’re not allowed to use another person’s situation as the bar against which you should measure yourself and your life.

Marriage changes a lot of things, but it also doesn’t change anything. It doesn’t validate your existence. It doesn’t officially make you an adult. It doesn’t mean you’re successful. But it also doesn’t mean you’ve succumbed to society’s norms, or you’ve given up your independence, or you’ve decided to to become boring.

Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it will not complete you, and it will not fix you. Right now, it seems like all these newly engaged and newly married people are oozing with happiness, and they probably are. But just like all other adult things, marriage is hard. Marriage is work. The rosy glow will fade into something that – while still special and sacred – eventually just becomes part of everyday life.

Accept that sometimes you’ll feel weird, or uncomfortable, or uneasy. Accept that this is a hard time for you. And then move on. Because it’s not like all the single people are on one side of the fence, unhappy and depressed and worthless, and all the married people are on the other side of the fence, blissful and free of worry and completely at peace.

Married or not, everybody has issues, everyone has worries, everybody has things that keep them up at night. Marriage, for the most part, will provide you with a partner that can support you, but it will not fix your problems. It will not validate your life and your purpose. It will not give you meaning.

You must find that meaning in yourself. You must learn to love your own company, learn to appreciate the simple joy of existing, learn that you have dignity that exists with or without another person’s love.

Learn to love yourself. Learn to love existing. Watch how much joy will come into your life the minute you stop trying to copy someone else’s life path. Perhaps, when you do this, love will come. Perhaps not. But either way, the minute you learn to stop measuring your life up against ridiculous and pointless standards, happiness will show up. Maybe not in the form you expected. But it will be there. 

Aww!!! Check Out What a Young Girl Did to her Dad’s Car for Father’s Days

Yesterday was father’s day and people were showing love to the men in their lives.

This Innocent child could not wait to show her love for her Daddy, so she expressed hers in a 'harmless' manner.

Imagine if you wake up and your child had this ‘Surprise Gift’ on your car.

What would be your reaction, if u were the Father?

Remember she did it out of her love for you…

Kim Kardashian Sends Kanye West Father's Day Wishes, Confirms Baby Gender

In a recent social media rant, Kim laughed at various baby rumors and told fans to only listen to her if they wanted the truth.

So here it is: Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are having a boy!!!

"Precious moments like this when we were traveling on tour with you are what I live for," Kim wrote on Facebook Sunday night, along with a picture of Kanye reading to daughter North.
 
She then dropped the gender bomb and added:
"You're such a good daddy to North & you will be the best daddy to our new son too!"

Earlier in the day, Kardashian had included a different picture on Facebook and penned her husband a sweet Father's Day message:

"I'm so lucky to be married to a man who is so in love with his daughter, your bond is so irreplaceable!
"Thank you for being such a good dad! We love and appreciate you so much! We're so blessed to have you!"


After facing many problems with conception, this famous couple announced its second pregnancy in May.

The latest addition to the West family will arrive in December.

A previous report had claimed Kim and Kanye were having a boy, while other online chatter alleged she was having twins and one outlet somehow wrote she was lying about the pregnancy in general.

But now we know for sure and now we can send Kimye our best wishes... while resuming our hunt for the Kim's baby bump.

See Rick Ross Amazing Weight Loss In New Photo

Remember fat Rick Ross?
 
Well below is picture of him standing next to label mate Meek Mil.


Who on earth would imagine that the celebrity will ever be this good looking? This is to say that hard work really pays......he is now better and healthier!!!

Awesome transformation!!! What do you think?

Kylie Jenner Shows Off New Mansion: Picture of Her Shoe Closet Will Shock You

Back in February, Kylie bought her first home.

Now, a 17-year-old buying a house anywhere in the world for any price is impressive, but Ms Jenner picked up a $1.7 million mansion in the ritzy suburb of Calabasas, CA, and we're guessing the whole thing is already paid off.

So what's Kylie gonna do with all those square feet? Set up a work out room? Storage area? Maybe a play space for her boyfriend's son?

Gawd, you sound totally poor right now, hypothetical reader. You can do whatever lame stuff you want with your house, but Kylie's 'bout dat walk-in shoe closet life:
 
Yes, that's where Kylie stores her shoes, and the really crazy part is that it's probably not even big enough to house all of her Manolos, Louboutins, and other footwear so expensive, peasants like us haven't even heard of it.

How can Kylie afford all this? Well her family just got paid $100 million for four more seasons of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, but that's not even Kylie main source of revenue these days.

The girl has an astonishing 26 million Instagram followers, and they listen to her advice on how to drop their dollars, whether it's on a detox tea she's paid to endorse, or on her own line of brightly-colored hair extensions.

Say what you will about the girl, but she's found a way to make her selfies pay off.

Auditions for Project Fame West Africa Season 8 kicks off in Abuja, PH

 

MTN Project Fame West Africa is here again; bigger, better and more exciting. Yes indeed, West Africa’s biggest music talent hunt competition is its 8th season and you have a chance to be one of the contestant as the Live auditions is coming to a location near you.

This Saturday, June 20, the Bolingo Hotel, Abuja and Vointel Hotel, Port Harcourt will play host to the wannabe music stars as they slug it out for the right to perform in Project Fame.

So are you ready to live the dream? Are you ready to perform in Africa's biggest music talent reality TV show? Come display your singing talents at the auditions in Abuja and Port Harcourt.

Here are the easy steps to be a part of the auditions. All you need to do is to dial 5900 on your MTN line, listen to the voice prompt, follow the instruction and you will be given a unique PIN number. You can also record your songs and submit it via the Interactive Voice recording Platform.

The overall winner in MTN Project will walk away with a brand new SUV, a recording contract worth millions of Naira and N5million in cash while the 1st Runner up will get a saloon car and N3million in cash. The 2nd runner up will not go home empty handed as he will drive away a brand new saloon car along with N1million while the 3rd runner up is made a Millionaire

After Abuja, the MTN train will move to Ibadan and Accra, Ghana on 27th July while Lagos will be the next location for contestants on 3rd and 4th of July.

Prospective contestants can log onto www.projectfamewestafrica.com  For more registration and audition details.

Senate President, Bukola Saraki Visits Obasanjo in Abeokuta

Senate President, Bukola Saraki paid a visit to Former President of Nigeria, Olusegun Obasanjo at his Hiltop villa in Abeokuta today, June 19, 2015.

 
Bukola was accompanied by Oyinlola, Andy Uba and more.


A source who was part of the meeting informed PREMIUM TIMES that the Senate President was in Abeokuta to beg Mr. Obasanjo to reconcile him with President Muhammadu Buhari and his party, the All Progressives Congress, APC.

Mr. Saraki emerged as the president of the Senate against the decision of APC leaders. He was also elected when most Senators from the APC were at the International Conference Centre waiting to hold a meeting with Mr. Buhari to discuss the election of the Senate president and Speaker of the House of Representatives.

It was also gathered that Mr. Saraki lamented that although the party leaders have stated that they have accepted his emergence, there was “complete communication breakdown between him, the president and the party”.

The national chairman of the APC, John Oyegun, had abruptly cancelled a scheduled meeting with Mr. Saraki last week without giving another appointment.
Likewise, we also gathered that Mr. Saraki had tried severally to meet with Mr. Buhari after his emergence, but was always denied audience.

Another source in the presidency informed us that the President was angry with Mr. Saraki and the management of the national assembly for going ahead with their election despite adequate knowledge of an invitation for a meeting with Mr. Saraki and his colleagues.

“The president considered it as a mark of disrespect for his office for Saraki to ignore an invitation to meet with him and his colleagues,” our source said.
In his response, Mr. Obasanjo promised to do his best to “ensure communication between all parties”.
However, the spokesperson for the president, Garba Shehu, said the Senate president did not seek to meet with Mr. Buhari.

“I am not aware of any request for a meeting, the president would have seen him, he represents a key institution in our democracy,” he said.
Calls to Mr. Saraki and his aide, Bamikole Omishore, were not answered.
However, the former president in his usual self also joked with the delegation, saying “ you children of nowadays only run to elders when you have finished making the damage”.

PREMIUM TIMES also learnt that after he was informed of the visit, Mr. Obasanjo called Mr. Buhari to inform him that Mr. Saraki is leading a delegation of Senators to his Abeokuta home and Mr. Buhari simply said “you have to see them now, are they not your boys?”.

Among Mr. Saraki’s delegation include former governor of Gombe state, Danjuma Goje, Andy Uba, former Zamfara governor, Ahmed Sani, Olagunsoye Oyinlola and others. 

Culled from CCNA

Hilarous: Enugu Hotel Name Their Rooms After Nigerian Celebrity, Wizkid, Don Jazzy, Davido, ETC....

Comedian and media personality, Yaw lodged in a hotel in Enugu today, June 19, 2015.

Yaw said rooms in the hotel were named after Don Jazzy, Wizkid, Davido, P-Square, Phyno, 2face.

Read what he wrote below.

Vincent Enyama Shares Vacation Photos With His Family (See Photos)

The Super Eagles captain and number one goalkeeper, Vincent Enyeama is on his vacation with his family.

Enyeama tore a query letter from the NFF following his comment about the safety of the national team players during their 2017 African Cup of Nations qualifiers against Chad.

Though the Lille of France goalkeeper has written an apology letter to the federation, his place in the national team is uncertain after several calls from football personalities to ban him from the Super Eagles.

All these seem to be out of Enyeama's mind as he enjoyed some private moments with his wife and kids at an unknown location where they are spending their holidays.

From the photos shared on Instagram, Enyeama got to enjoy some game of golf with his eldest children before settling down for a huge breakfast with his family.

Vincent Enyeama and his wife have three beautiful children-a son and two daughters.

See there adorable photos below:

Nigeria’s Four Refineries to Start Production Next Month- NNPC

Nigeria National Petroleum Corporation, NNPC spokesperson, Mr Ohi Alegbe told AFP that Nigeria’s four refineries, two in Port Harcourt, one in Kaduna and the other one in Warri will resume production next month.

According to Ohi, “The refineries at Warri, Port Harcourt and Kaduna will resume next month after a successful turn-around-maintenance (overhaul) of their facilities. The turn-around-maintenance has been on for some time. We did not just want to make any noise about it. The refineries will start production as soon as they have delivery of crude oil for refining.”

This is great NEWS.....