4 Reasons Why Your Christian Husband Wants to be Single Again

Not every Christian home is filled with a loving happy couple. As wonderful as you are…and as much as you do for your family…keeping it running like a well-oiled machine – your husband might not be happy…and you don’t even know it. Yes…he loves you. But there’s something about the way you manage the household affairs that has him wishing he was living the single life again.
Now, I know you’re thinking, “How dare you!” or “That’s not my husband!” And if this doesn’t apply to you, please forgive me. I’m not intentionally accusing women in general…or you specifically…of being a bad wife. But if you’ve ever had longstanding, ongoing, reoccurring problems in your marriage, how do you know he doesn’t wish he was single again. It’s not like he’s going to tell you. He’s crazy…but not that crazy!
I’ve talked to hundreds of married Christian men. And I’ve seen the glimmer in their eyes, the excitement in their voice, and their expressive body language when they reminisce on those single-days back-in-the-day. And then I compare their reaction when I bring up a current marital situation that should trigger the same level of excitement. You would be shocked to see the down-trodden reactions when talking about married-life around other men. Again…how would you know? Hopefully, these 4 reasons why your Christian husband wants to be single again will give you some clues to whether I’m talking about your husband or not.

1. You’ve Changed…But Not in a Good Way
When you first got married, it was all cupcakes and cream cheese icing. But life happened. And how you adapted and adjusted to its challenges created the person he doesn’t like. Yes, he loves you. But he doesn’t like the person you’ve become. Grant it, he might be a butt! And you are a wonderful, responsible, intelligent woman. But if there’s any contributory negligence on your part, his perception of you is likely the complete opposite. One way to tell if your husband can’t stand you if he no longer has any filters. If he says and does whatever he wants to you and around you…without regard for your feelings, your husband desires a change for the better…preferably with you…but maybe not.

2. You’re Too Controlling
Power struggles in a marriage are the fight over who controls the resources within the family. Not just money, but also time, information, rewards and punishments, and emotional drama (I’ll address this one in detail in another post). A husband feels powerless if he is controlled by these resources instead of sharing control of them. Now, I know you’re going to lash back at me and say, “We both control our family resources 50/50!!!!” I don’t dispute that. Nor do I dispute that your family doesn’t have its roles and responsibilities worked out perfectly. But what I do know is that some men feel that, to alleviate the emotional drama you will heap on his head, he has to give up control over some of these resources just to keep the peace. And if you wield too much control, your husband might be longing for the single life where he once controlled all his resources.

3. Living with You Requires Too Much Sacrifice
All single people know that love requires sacrifice. But it’s only during marriage that you discover you’re going to have to sacrifice something that you really like…for something that you don’t care about…just because your spouse wants it that way. That’s hard work to do consistently year after year. And some of your required sacrifices are too high for your husband’s sacrificial threshold. So if your man starts showing signs of cracking…like withdrawal or avoidance…you might want to loosen up on your sacrificial requirements. Or he might just be pondering sacrificing the marriage.

4. Sacrificial Sex
I get it. But you have to “make time” for sexual intimacy with your husband. You’ve said “no” so many times that when you do allow it to happen, he feels like it’s a sacrifice for you…and you’d rather be washing clothes or some other chore on your to do list. Do you want to feel like you’re not desired…like sex with you is a burdensome chore? Neither does he. You should initiate sex at least once a week…or once a month depending on your frequency. That will make him feel wanted…and not wanting to leave.
Happy wife…happy life. I’m sure you’ve heard this saying. Agree with it? You probably do. Well I don’t! Because it completely disregard’s the man’s wants and desires. And when you’ve changed and have become too controlling and require too much of a sacrifice, including making sex with him feel like a burdensome chore…then your man just might be looking longingly back at…and forward towards…those good-old single days.

ABUJA BOMB BLAST: Baby Survives Blasts, Mom Dies

The miraculous survival of a 10-month baby, Goodness in the Abuja bomb blasts that occurred yesterday left many speechless.

          Goodness

The mother of the miracle baby, it was gathered was one of the petty traders at the Nyanya bus park who was however among those killed in the blasts, which claimed 71 lives and left 124 injured.
It was learnt that the mother of Goodness was holding the baby at the time of the incident.
The 10-month baby who was among the victims taken to Asokoro General Hospital after the attack was reported to have been found among the mangled remains of the victims of the bomb blast by emergency workers.
The little baby was identified by a man who later showed up at the hospital who claimed to be her father.
The only visible injury on her was one of her eyes which was swollen as she is still being treated by nurses at the Hospital as at Tuesday morning.
Meanwhile the nurses said the man who showed up as her father will have to obtain appropriate police report backed up by all the necessary evidence before the child can be released to him.
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Meet The Youngest Delegate At The National Conference

If you think that the National Conference consists of “sleepy old men” who have nothing to offer, you will have to think again.

A bright and talented girl from Borno State, Yadoma Bukar Mandara, would definitely break the stereotype of a typical Confab member. She turned 24 on the March 5, 2014, and she is still single.
Yadoma is the last daughter of the late Alhaji (Dr) Zannah Bukar Umaru Mandara, the very well respected in Zanna Dujima of Borno State, a philanthropist and promoter of female education.

The youngest Confab delegate graduated University of Maiduguri in 2010, specialising in environmental biology.
She calls herself an introvert but do not be deceived by her cool mien, she is very outspoken and is an executive committee member of the Nigerian Youth Forum. As a matter of fact, she is one of the most passionate activists behind the #OccupyNigeria protests.
It has been also learnt that the beauty and the activist enjoys watching football.
Concerning the National Conference, she said: “I am willing to make modest sacrifices so that my generation and generation yet unborn can live in a better country”.
Speaking about the N12m sitting allowances Yadoma revealed that she and some of her colleagues would not collect and use the money for themselves only:

“We have a scenario where things we take for granted mean the world to others – physically challenged people who will never be able to afford wheel chairs and thousands of people who can’t afford medical care because they are poor and have been injured by terrorists. I want them to consider my sitting allowance as a gift to them and humanity.
“I do not do this for praise nor to look good in the eyes of the society, I am doing this because it is the right thing to do.
“I hereby pledge to use my allowances as a seed grant and start a foundation that will cater for vulnerable women especially widows and children in Borno State, if you understand their hopeless and helpless state in Borno State and Northern Nigeria in general you will support me in this new drive to put a smile on their faces,” Yadoma declared.

  
 * Yadoma the award winner. 
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Security Agencies Order Evacuation Of Nigerian National Assembly members Over Bomb Scare

Abuja - Reports reaching us indicate that the National Assembly members have been evacuated as information surfaced about explosive materials planted inside the building.

It would be recalled that police and security agencies have been on alert since yesterday's powerful explosion that occurred at the crowded Nyanya bus station. According to police reports, some 80 people were killed, while hundreds sustained injuries. However, eyewitnesses accounts suggest there were about 500 bodies at the scene of the accident.
Security agents have ordered lawmakers and staff members to vacate the building located  the Three Arms Zone, the high-security area in Abuja where the office of Supreme Court, as well as several federal buildings are also situated.
The Zone is not far away from the scene of the Monday's bombing. (Naij)

More details later.
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Must Read-How Eva Alordiah got rid of her severe Acne(Before & After Photos)

Wow! Who would believe flawless faced Eva once battled with such terrible acne...She shared her pictures and this article on how she battled acne..

Isn’t it sweet that after so many months, that’d would be 6 years of battling severe Acne, i am suddenly getting great compliments on my skin? Who would have thought! Now i get the “Oh you are so fine”   “Chai, God took his time to make you sha”   “You are the girl i have been searching for” – Na so. Thank you gbogboyin! LOL.
It would be really a waste of an experience for me to have gone through battling Acne and bad skin, finally getting through it and not be able to share it with you – Whoever you are, dealing with your acne issues one new product off the shelf at a time. I just want you to know, i have been there, done that, Look at me now! I may be clueless as to how severe your Acne is or isn’t, but as you can see from my progress photos, i battled with really severe acne.

Goodness me, i literally could not step out of my house! I was home bound for weeks on end, forming “I’m an introvert, i don’t go out much”, when deep down inside i was in so much pain and stress, which obviously helped a few more zits pop out of every free corner of my face. No matter how hard i tried, i just couldn’t get it off my face.
acne before after
Sorry for the not-so-clear before photos. We never get money buy iphone that year. hehehe

Bottle after bottle of toners and astringents, pills, dark bitter concoctions, soaps, creams of varying names and packet design, not to mention an ailing bank account that was deteriorating rapidly from my weekly experimental expenditures on the next big thing promising to clear my face. I bought every soap, every cream, every toner, the big brands, the small brands, the DIY Home made recipes, Chemical peels, the ‘bury your head in a bowl of hot water, wrap a towel around your head and cook your face’ therapy, ‘First urine of the day as a toner’ therapy, Facials and Facials and even more facials, all to no avail. It even seemed at some point that my face would get better and then all of a sudden get even worse again.
Plus It almost seems like every one you know suddenly becomes a skincare specialist when you have acne.
You get the

“Ha, oma se ooooh! Who do you this kine strong tin na?”
“Why don’t you try this and that product”
“You should drink your urine, it would cleanse the toxins from your system”
“Use the first instance of your next period as a toner, it has nutrients that will clear it.”

I kid you not, i got all of these and more.  If you haven’t gotten these kinds of attention before, then E be like your face never jam better pimples.  LOL. And in all this time of worrying about myself and locking myself indoors, what did i do about my Acne? That question should be more like “What didn’t i do?”
Ok now lets get real. The bigger question now would probably be “How did i do it? How did i get my skin so clear of Acne?” Truth is you might even be asking these questions now, without asking How long it took. That’s what happens with Acne, or any skin issue for that matter. We want it off now now. Unfortunately, the bad news is, It is not going to just up and leave your face like a visitor who came for lunch. As a matter of fact the more you worry about it, and disturb your face on and on about it, the more it lingers. So the first tip i am going to give you,’

1. Worry Less
As much as you are going to care for your skin with hopes of getting better, you also need not worry about it so much. I didn’t notice any huge improvement on my face until i began to let it be.

2. Ditch the Astringents and Alcohol. Use an organic toner
This worked for me amazingly. As soon as i stopped the constant swirling of an alcohol infused cotton ball around my Acne eroded skin, i noticed a dramatic improvement with my skin. I haven’t bought or used Acne clearing astringents in the past 3 years and i am the happier for it. Pure rose water should do you just fine.
What i use: A mix of Vitamin C serum in my Rose water. Vitamin C serum helps renew dead surface cells and fades dark spots left by Acne.
Our skin has the unique ability to renew itself over time, replacing dead skin cells of the surface/epidermis. This is totally dependent on the activity of the epidermal stem cells. And you have the power to increase the efficiency of this process or cause a major decline, depending on what you apply topically and what you feed your body. Which brings me to food!

3. Change your diet. Or improve it.
foods for acne photo Instead of investing your hard earned money on drugs and skin care products over and over, how about adding fruits and vegetables to your diet.  The good news is that the foods that happen to be good for your skin are also good for your overall health. What i noticed was a huge change in the feel of my skin one particular week when i decided to increase my intake of Oranges and Citrus fruits. My skin felt smoother and seemed to glow, which was weird for me as i always had to wear foundation to get that before.
Vitamin E is also very vital for the overall health of your skin and since the human body cannot produce Vitamin E naturally it should essentially be consumed from external sources.
What you need: A diet rich in Antioxidants, this means More Vitamins, A, C and E and Omega -3:  oranges, grapefruit, papayas,carrots, pumpkin, sweet potatoes, strawberries, kiwis, red and green peppers, tomatoes, vegetables, broccoli, mangoes, oranges, Brussels sprouts, Nuts, fish oil.

4. Water
Water should become your best friend if it isn’t already. 8 glasses of water a day. I beg you to try this strictly for 1 week and see what difference you experience on your skin. It would help to flush toxins out and even do your kidneys and liver a favor. And when those babies are working smoothly, guess what happens on the surface? Your skin would literally smile! That’s when you notice a glow that you didn’t think was there before.
 What i do: 1 glass + 2 limes or 1 lemon first thing in the morning and last thing before i go to bed. In between 6 other glasses of water.

5. Enough with the Scrubbing!!
Scrub your face morning, scrub again at night, wake up tomorrow and do it all over again like say i nor get work. Seriously, Stop. You are doing more harm than good by scrubbing and scrubbing ever so often. Your face needs time to heal, it needs time to renew itself. The more you scrub the more your pores stay open, increasing your risk of sunburns and more zits developing into spots held tightly together creating little communities and townships on your skin. I recommend a light touch exfoliation once a week and see how you can improve from there to twice a week.
 What i do: I use Honey + Sugar or Sheabutter + Sugar for exfoliating my skin

6. Cleansing
You should always cleanse or wash your facial skin with a soft touch. All that gra-gra washing doesn’t necessarily mean you are going to rinse off and have the acne falling to the floor. You are doing more harm than good to your skin.
What i use: The good ol’ African black soap never seems to tire me. Whether you get your soap from Lagos or Ghana, if it is traditionally made, it becomes my best friend. I do a mix of Black soap, Honey and Lemon till it becomes a sort of washing liquid. No water. Your honey and Lemons would be just enough to liquefy

7. Sunscreen
Acne makes your skin even more susceptible to sun burns which it why it seems the spots get darker and darker no matter how hard you try. You should be wearing sun screen on a daily basis to prevent more damage. Choose a sunscreen with SPF 30 and higher.

8. Less Makeup
This is a no brainer really. You want to minimize your use of makeup as much as you can till your skin is in a better condition. Makeup clogs your pores and make it even difficult for your skin to breathe, let alone smile. Plus we both know you would be needing a hell lot of product to cover those zits up. So please bare for a while, do without it when you can. Your skin smiling days are only weeks ahead trust me. And if you do wear makeup, ensure to take it all off before going to bed.

9. It gets better with time!
This is so true, well depending on how early you stop worrying so much about your skin. I used to have 4 big zits appear on my forehead and chin as soon as the monthly came knocking. Infact i stopped checking my calendar and started telling it was time just by the acne popping out. Now, i don’t even get them anymore. Not one pimple! My Mom says my body grew out of it, and my hormones balanced out with age and i would like to believe that.
However depending on genetics and other hormonal factors this would likely vary from person to person.

10. Believe
As queer as this sounds, it is probably the best tip i would be giving you. Just believing that your skin would clear up in no time is enough to calm your nerves, have the good vibes flowing, have your heart pumping nicely and reducing stress, and in all reflecting improvement on the surface. So be calm, sincerely believe that your skin is going to get better and begin to imagine all the beautiful pictures you’d soon be showing off of your Acne-less skin.

There you have it guys! I do hope this has helped you in some way. My skin isn’t perfect yet, a couple of fading spots here and there but i can sha waka without Makeup now and not worry about people looking at me funny.  LOL. 

Photos: 6-Year-Old Boy With TAIL Growing From His Back Worshipped As A Hindu god

Six-year-old Amar Singh is worshiped as a god-like figure in Nijmapur, a small village in the state of Uttar Pradesh in northern India, after growing a 12-inch long tail.

                                                       Amar Singh with his 12-inch tail

Amar who is the youngest of five siblings has a patch of thick hair starting in the small of his back which has grown to more than 12 inches in length to resemble a 'tail' and the villagers have hailed it as a sign that he is connected to the Hindu god Hanuman, a monkey-like deity.
His family also believes he looks like a cow, an animal considered holy in Hindu culture and affirmed by Amar’s interest in cows.
 
                                                           Amar Singh with cows

According to his family, he was born with the anomalous patch of hair, which was about one inch in length, and it continued to grow over the years.
                                      Amar Singh with his father & sisters

His father, Ajmer Singh said, "Amar is a very loving child and everybody sees him as a symbol of god."
He further explains that although the hairs on Amar’s back could easily be cut and shaved off, the family are hesitant as they consider them to be a 'gift from god'.
                                                       Amar Singh's tail

Contrary to what Amar's family believes, the 'tail' is a result of the birth defect spina bifida, which can result in lower-back growths or, as in Amar’s case, a tuft of hair, which can grow into a tail if left uncut. It occurs when the spinal column does not close all of the way down and it is one of the most common permanently disabling birth defects. Spina bifida affects about one child in every 2,500.
Exactly why this happens is not known, but the most significant risk factor that has been identified is a lack of folic acid before pregnancy and in the very early weeks of pregnancy.

Swarm Of Bees kill 83-Year-Old Woman In Imo

An 83-year- old woman, Nwanyiaro Orji, was reportedly stung to death by a swarm of bees, on Monday, in Nchoko Amiri community, Oru East Local Council Area of Imo State.

A source, who didn't want his name published said that the aged woman went to the back of her family house to use the toilet, when neighbours heard an unusual noise.
According to a witness, who gave his name as Joe, neighbours  initially thought the noise came from a bunch of ripe bread fruit tree at the backyard, not knowing it was the beehive on top of the bread fruit tree that had fall down.

"The angry bees, which home had been dislodged, started stinging everybody within the vicinity, including the aged woman’s step-son, who was in the kitchen at the time" Joe said.
He said while the bees were stinging the woman, her step-son made a spirited attempt to pull her away from the scene, but to no avail.

"This did not work as the aged woman was not agile enough to scamper into safety with her step-son. The boy hurriedly left the scene" Joe said.
Meanwhile some youths later mobilised themselves, bought some cans of insecticide, wrapped themselves properly and went after the bees.

"After winning the battle against the bees, the young men rescued the old woman and quickly rushed her to a nearby private hospital, where the medical team did everything possible to save her life. The woman died the next day" Joe said.
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Famous Actress Yvonne Okoro Is Broken Hearted?

Half-Nigerian and half-Ghanaian actress, Yvonne Okoro, is probably broken hearted at the moment, as she shared her feeling at social network.

On her Instagram timeline, sexy Yvonne Okoro said:

"At this age, I don’t see the point of dating someone and knowing deep down that it’s not going to go far. "I would rather be lonely and miserable than be in a relationship and be happy for a short while; then walk away because I realized this is not the kind of man I want to be with."

According to her close friend, Nollywood actress had her fair share of heartbreaks and has decided to be on her own instead of trying out another affair and end up crying.
A close friend of Yvonne added that she has tried some relationships that she thought would be altar bound, only to find out that the men are not worth it as they always end up hurting her and hence she has decided to be lonely and miserable rather than be in a relationship.
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Nyanya Blast: Edwin Clark Urges Every Nigerian To Financially Assist Military

Delivering his speech at the ongoing National Conference currently being held in Abuja, Chief Edwin Clark has urged every Nigerian, including delegates, to contribute more to end the scourge of insecurity in the country.


According to the elder statesman, security challenges Nigeria is facing are a national issue, not only a North or South issue.
He believes that country's military are doing their job, but additionally support from the country people is required, as "soldiers alone cannot fight this war".
Edwin Clark was quoted saying:
"Everyday we sit down here deliberating. What are we debating about? Will Nigeria be eradicated before we know it is here with us?.. This conference must send a message to the authorities that something must be strongly done about it. Instead of me going to eat at 2 pm, monetise it and send it to those who are dying fighting this scourge. The time has come for all of us to do something."
It would be recalled that a dire explosion rocked Nyanya bus station, located on the outskirts of Abuja, Monday morning. As a result of the bombing 71 people died and 124 were injured (confirmed by police). However, the number of casualties is likely to rise.
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